Tips for Emotional Fitness

1. Acknowledge criticism

Criticism is one of the most difficult things to accept. But it is important to develop the ability to cope with criticism for your emotional fitness. As writer Elbert Hubbard says, “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” David D. Burns, author, In The Feeling Good Handbook, shares another technique to deal with criticism. “The simple, most important technique for dealing with criticism is to find some truth in the criticism. When you acknowledge the criticism, no matter how small, you disarm the person who is criticizing you. This immediately calms the interchange.”


2. Change the way you look at change

True, when you are blessed with happy things, you want to stay in the moment forever. However, as much as you want the world to remain the same, you cannot run away from change. So, accept it and go for it positively. The best part about change is it also becomes a habit soon. The more changes you let into your life, the stronger you become.


3. Know your emotional triggers

Emotional triggers, also called hot buttons, are reasons that make you annoyed. So, first analyze what irritates you. When you are aware of your emotions, you will come up with ways to deal with it. You can prepare for it so that you don’t continually experience the same irritation. Becoming aware of your emotions helps you stay focused.


4. See the bigger picture

“Emotionally fit people can see the big picture. They know that one mistake or misstep doesn’t determine their destiny. They can also see alternatives to a situation and problem solve accordingly,” says Kristin Meekhof, writer, and author of the book, A Widow’s Guide to Healing.


5. Learn to generate alternate solutions

“Emotionally fit people don’t become fixated on one outcome; they are able to generate alternate solutions. They understand what they can and can’t change, so they don’t attempt to influence situations that are immobile. This avoids frustration and anger,” says Meekhof. When you have various solutions, you don’t analyze too much into what went wrong. You immediately look at what can be done.